Online Dating - Remember You Are Allowed To Have Fun

Article Written By: Jayde Johanssen

There is so much information about dating and internet dating out there. Everyone is an expert. Have you noticed though most of the advice is all doom and gloom. How to avoid this disaster, how to recognise that scam. It can't be that hard, all you are doing after all is trying to meet someone. So I am writing today to remind you dating isn't all about danger, or scammers, it's just meeting people. You are trying to meet people whose company you can enjoy. So here are my 3 big tips on how you can date using web based tools AND have fun.

1. Before you start dating online, there are 2 things you need to think about. Firstly, think about the qualities you are looking for in your partner. Secondly, think about the experience you are looking for. When reflecting on these two things, try to do it on your own, without accepting advice from anyone.

Many people are full of advice about what you want, what type of people are right for you and what experiences are ok to have. The problem is that these people's opinions more reflect what is right for them, not what is right for you. So if you listen to them rather than yourself, you are starting your dating process by looking for a date and experience that is suitable for someone else.

Trust your own judgement and enjoy the results of your own decisions. Every date will not work out perfectly and we all have relationships which fail. But this is a good thing. It helps you understand yourself, learn what you need in life and recognise it when it arrives. Much better you learn these lessons for you rather than learn someone else's lessons.

Tip 2. Having noted the type of person and experience you want, only go to dating sites which cater for those specifics. Ignore the general dating sites that attract every man and his dog, only join niche ones which attract the people you are looking for. That is, use the dating site itself to qualify your potential dates.

You don't have to go to a general dating site where it is much more hit and miss. Some examples of specific dating sites include: Adult Dating Sites for an open and steamy experience; Asian Dating Sites if you are attracted to eastern culture; Christian Dating Sites if christian values are important in your partner; Gay and Lesbian Dating Sites if you are looking for a same sex partner; Jewish Dating Sites if jewish values are important in your partner; Seniors Dating Sites if you are looking for a mature partner; Dating Sites for the Tall, for when size matters; Dating Wealthy Partners for a more sophisticated experience

Tip 3. Put safety first in all cases. Remember you do not know a person until you've spent time getting to know them. Email/Chat/Webcam just doe not cut it. When you meet someone for the first time, treat it like a blind date. Ie. Do it in a public place and have friends ready to "rescue" you.

Never escalate with someone that you are not yet comfortable with or don't feel safe with. This means don't give your email address or phone number to someone who hasn't won your confidence on the dating site. Following that, don't meet someone who has not made you feel comfortable when communicating by email or phone. Finally, never meet someone privately when they did not make you feel safe in the public meeting. This all sounds like common sense, but it is always harder when you are in the middle of it and getting pressured by the person on the other end, so be strong.

Once you have met someone in real life, you really should reset your expectations of them to ZERO. Pretend you never contacted them on the internet and start dating them in exactly the same way you would date someone you met in society proper.

Hopefully that will help with your internet dating experience. Remember, for greater success, keep it simple, specific and safe. Good luck.

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Jayde Johanssen has assisted many find true love, by offering quality dating advice and offering dating site reviews

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